Attention Intention

new moon reflection

This new moon in Scorpio has been inviting me to dream into what’s coming next, it feels like it’s asking us to get honest with ourselves, to choose what we want to grow as we head into 2026.

To quote William James, the father of modern psychology, “My experience is what I agree to attend to.”

And yet we live in a world where our attention is constantly being pulled, pushed, and shaped by forces far bigger than maybe we realise. Our mornings can often start the same way, we wake up and before we’ve even fully arrived into a new day, our phone is already in our hand.

A quick check of the time becomes a glance at messages, becomes a scroll, becomes whatever the algorithm has decided I need to see that morning.

I’ve got a current popular podcast calling to me in the mornings at the mo, and it is making me question if this is best way to start my day, yet most of the time, I don’t think I even notice I’m doing it, hopping between WhatsApp, email, telegram, YouTube, Insta over a cuppa.

And it’s not our fault either. We’re conditioned by every swipe and ping. It’s by design. Attention is currency. It’s not called the Attention Economy for nothing.

I read a quote recently that said, “we have to self-regulate against a billion dollar industry.” That hit home, especially when I’ve been reading about the design of AI and LLMs recently, as I wrote in my piece on AI intimacy.

AI Intimacy, and the Behaviour Change Machine

Scorpio moons are brilliant at revealing hidden patterns, they can illuminate where our energy leaks out without consent. They can show us the unconscious habits we’ve normalised and see whether those habits serve the life we want to create, if we dare to look into the shadows.

Last weekend I spoke at the Mind, Body, Spirit Festival at the Birmingham NEC and delivered something I’ve been calling ‘Navigate the Net’. It is a guided journey set to the music of Above & Beyond, designed to reset the attention on multiple levels and support people with their relationship to the digital world. I also performed it at Boomtown this summer, it’s work I have been developing and believe in so deeply.

But an hour before the start of my session at MBS, I still hadn’t sold any tickets to my session! It was opened up for free, and a small, beautiful group joined me. But then again this week, I was due to speak at a wellbeing event in Frome, but no ticket sales…

I’m sharing the embarrassment of not selling any tickets because it’s the truth, and it showed me a few things… About myself, my work in digital wellbeing and my importantly about my messaging.

It is hard looking at our digital habits. When you can choose from a sound bath, tarot, angels, galactics… or “Hi, do you want to come look at your digital wellbeing with me?”

What does that even mean?!

None of us were taught how to be in right relationship with the internet or with devices and apps designed like slot machines.

I feel like it’s the topic on everyone’s lips, yet me and my digital wellbeing compadres are struggling to get our message across.

Because some of this is messaging. I have to take responsibility, because what does Navigate the Net even mean to someone outside of my brain tbh? So this week I’ve taken what happened to my coach and some of my nearest and dearest, and I’ve been playing with some words.

It feels like the new moon is a good moment to share and ask for feedback.

I believe that this work is all about attention and intention.

Attention isn’t passive. It’s energetic. It shapes how we feel. It shapes our nervous system. It shapes the story our brain tells about our life.

The digital world fires up the part of us wired for novelty, threat, and immediate reaction so there is no wonder so many of us struggle, chasing reward and overwhelm!

That’s why I started designing these guided journeys, because I saw how burnt out I was personally and so were all my clients and those around me, working in digital spaces and using social media. I also knew from all my breath work and the neuroscience of social media that we need to work with the nervous system, so we can reset our attention in our bodies and at a subconscious level.

Big tech have used neuroscience to capture our time and our data and our attention so I’m using neuroscience to help reset the attention! backatYa babes!!

In my guided journeys and talks in schools, I’m using body, breath, meta cognitive awareness, reconnecting to values and building internal boundaries…. A mix of narrative therapy/ metaphor to explore our digital habits…

Yesterday a new name landed…

‘The Attention Reset’

I’m feeling into it, but would love your feedback!

There are some [boring] mind-based-productivity books of the same name, but why my guided journey approach works is because it changes the nervous system first. It’s actually a nervous-system level intervention designed around how attention works in the brain and body.

And this isn’t just about our phones. It’s also about the bigger picture.

Attention is shaping everything - it shapes our wellbeing, our creativity, our sense of self. It shapes our very world imho.

If this resonates, and you’re curious about your own digital patterns, I’d love to invite you to the first ever Digital Wellbeing talk with Alternatives on Thursday 4th December (thankfully I know that people have already bought tickets for this one!)

Empowering Your Digital Self: Digital Balance in the Age of AI

It’s a gentle, spacious 90-minute session where we slow down, breathe, and look at our digital lives. I’ll be using The Attention Reset work, blending storytelling, science, somatic awareness, and a guided journey.

We weren’t taught how to live well with the internet.

But we can learn.

And we can do it together, in fact it’s better when we do it together.

https://www.alternatives.org.uk/event/empowering-your-digital-self

I am taking this new moon to seed this intention.

Here’s to attention, and to our intention.

Love Kdot x